Sabbatical from Paradise

Hello readers!

You’re expecting a recap from Bachelor in Paradise. I totally understand your confusion and completely get why you may be disappointed with this post. After many days of consideration, I have decided neither recap nor podcast about Bachelor in Paradise this season.

Am I walking away from the franchise? Heavens no. I’ve been recapping this show for a third of my life, and I don’t plan on stopping anytime soon, apart from this short break.

Why am I stepping down for a quick sabbatical? I’m glad you asked. Several points were factored into my decision. I’ve included them in a handy dandy bullet point list for your convenience:

  • Traditionally, Bachelor in Paradise airs in the summertime. Its push to the fall months is problematic for me because I teach in September, October, and November. It wouldn’t be such a pain if the show only aired once per week, like a regular season. But since it’s two nights per week, I would have to block out four hours just to watch the debauchery. That’s not counting writing the recap or recording and editing the podcast.
  • I have two part-time jobs, which, hourly, equals a whole-time job. That hasn’t been the case since I stepped away from the oil and gas business to be a full-time writer in 2016. Anything extra I do with my time outside my jobs must be completed after work or on weekends.
  • There is a heaviness that comes with this reality. I feel like I’m letting everyone down by NOT writing about the show. Part of me thinks I’ve lost my grind. I’ve felt this since the beginning of COVID.
  • Was that too much truth talk?
  • When I watched the first episode, I wasn’t entertained. I want these people to find love on the beaches of Mexico! I’m not interested in watching them pretend not to know each other and bicker on night one.
  • Does that mean I’m not going to watch the season? WRONG. Of course, I’m going to watch the season. I’m just not going to write about it. Or podcast about it.
  • I will be podcasting about other things.
  • And perhaps writing about other things, too.
  • I wrote in my book how this community of readers helped me out of a deep, dark hole when I was secretly going through a divorce. It’s special here, and I am in awe that anyone would think twice about the words I write on the page.
  • Yet here you are.
  • Thank you.
  • My cup runneth over.
Notify of
newest most voted
Inline Feedbacks
View all comments
Jim J
Jim J
October 3, 2022 9:13 pm

Lincee you are the best. I could feel you stepping away a little bit this last season. I am sorry to hear about your divorce; even if amicable, is a course altering event. I wish
you nothing but the best. For me, you were one of the bright spots on the internet.

Don’t let anybody steal your sparkle.

Melissa C
Melissa C
October 3, 2022 11:37 pm

Lincee – You need to do what’s best for you, don’t worry about us. Of course we will miss the weekly laughs and insight but you’ve given so much of yourself to us already and we appreciate it! It’s always the right decision to take care of yourself and do what’s right for you 🙂

On a side note – I’m almost done with episode 1 and not really entertained either. And as a teacher I also have a hard time with this pushing into fall, there is so much else going on. It was perfect for summertime watching and 4 hours a week is also too much – I’d rather them edit out some of the crazy and whittle it down. But maybe that’s just me 😉

Enjoy your downtime and we will be here when you’re back!

October 4, 2022 12:50 pm

Enjoy your time to recharge! I do miss this blog though and while I’m watching, I keep wondering what you think about it! It is so over the top again. My biggest takeaways so far are Genevieve needs to get better fitting clothes…she is non-stop pulling up her top and what is with these new terms “I pulled him, it’s going to be messy (prison lingo), and another one that I cannot remember now. No one here is there to find love and why on earth did they open that girl’s luggage?

October 4, 2022 8:06 pm
Reply to  lm3js

The producers probably “made” them open Salley’s suitcase. Either way, it was crummy of them to do. I’ve been wondering about the “pulled” term, too. So strange. It’s as if they’re using shorthand when they talk! “Pulled” instead of “pulled him aside.” Whatever. I love this show but I’m starting to think I’m too old for it because the people on the show are SO young (and immature).

October 5, 2022 3:53 am

Lincee, you are a wise woman. You give and give, so I am glad you recognize when and where to draw a line. I (sort of) watched the first episode and removed from season pass. Not worth the time for me, and I’m not as busy as you! May God bless you every day.

October 6, 2022 10:36 am

Well, of course it won’t be the same, and won’t be even 1/4 as entertaining, without you and without you + some guy. Disappointment for this middle-aged woman from California. But…totally understand. Balance in life is key. Stay balanced, Lincee, and I, for one, will be looking forward to your return when the time is right for you. ~ Shoshana

Last edited 1 year ago by Shoshana
October 6, 2022 7:11 pm

Lincee, take time, we’ll be here.❤️

October 6, 2022 10:46 pm

I look forward to your recaps more than the actual shows anymore, and will be here when you come back. Take care of you!

October 10, 2022 1:18 pm

There is so much bravery in knowing when “to call-it.” Enjoy your break.

October 11, 2022 10:18 am

Lincee, your blog always makes me smile, chuckle, and nod in agreement. Your observations nail it. I could write 18 pages (FRONT AND BACK!) about your writing talents, but you are wise to know what your limits are. Take care of you; your devoted readers will be waiting whenever you feel it is time to blog again. Plus, I am glad you diversify your passions and don’t put all your eggs in one basket (the latter phrase being the one I have heard the most on this season of B.i.P.).

October 11, 2022 7:21 pm

Thanks for the update! I’ll definitely miss the recaps from you and someguy but its understandable. Just watched episode 4 and I’m loving the reconciliation and friendship between Genevieve and Shanae, hope its real!

Maribeth M
Maribeth M
October 16, 2022 5:06 pm

Hey Lincee – I don’t blame you for taking a break from the BIP discussions. It’s exhausting! I can only rationalize watching the show at all if I am multitasking, with another distasteful chore. It blows my mind that people put themselves in these embarrassing and manipulated scenarios. Two words SOCIAL MEDIA.

This week they will create the never before done most dramatic situation ever by replacing ALL of the women on the beach! I hope the women have an equal opportunity to Shake it up!

I look forward to reading future blogs. I am sorry to hear about your divorce. That’s rough! Take care ❤️

October 20, 2022 5:41 pm

I haven’t been able to watch more than one episode of the main Bachelor/ette since Matt’s season, but I still love BIP! So much more fun, and they actually get a chance to relax. This season has been exhausting but fun. I love how some of the guys are so quick to stay loyal to their gals – they seem to realize that they are being filmed (which of course makes sense). I think they all seem to get along very well.

November 26, 2022 1:19 am

spinix เกมสล็อต รวมทั้งคาสิโนออนไลน์มาใหม่ มาแรงที่สุด พีจี ที่เก็บค่ายเกมดังต่างๆไว้ตรงนี้ในแอพเดียวครบจบเลยทั้งยังแจกเพชรฟรีสามารถแลกเปลี่ยนเป็นเครดิต ถอนได้อีกด้วย

pgslot เว็บตรง
November 26, 2022 1:35 am

pgslot เว็บตรง เกมส์สล็อตออนไลน์ เกมยอดนิยมจากผู้เล่นทั้งโลกตอนนี้ การเล่นสล็อตของคุณจะไม่มีเบื่ออีกต่อไป pg slot ขอแนะนำให้มาเล่นกับเว็บเรามีทางเลือกทั้งเกมเเละโปรโมชั่น
December 12, 2022 10:18 pm

your article is useful, thanks for sharing <a href=””></a> please visit my webside

Would love your thoughts! Click here to share.x